My definition of a firefly is someone who shows up in your life, sometimes unexpectedly, and shines their own unique light into your life just when you need it. There are so many ways that we can show up and shine for someone. There are small ways, like looking into someone’s eyes to see them and simply smiling in a kind and accepting way. This is something that is rare these days in our multi-tasking, rushed society. I feel like we miss so many opportunities to connect with the people that we come into contact with on a daily basis. Whether it’s the barista who serves your coffee at Starbucks, the person in the drive-thru window, or your own child, taking the time to see them and let them see you, can be a spark in the dark. You just never know what the people around you are going through and you may make the difference by pausing and letting them know they aren’t alone in the world with just a look of encouragement. There have been times when I’ve felt like an encounter with a kind stranger turned my day around completely. Mirror neurons explain the powerful effect that a loving look can have on someone, it’s fascinating that just looking at someone with kindness can actually change the other person’s brain activity!
Then there are those fireflies who completely change the course of your life, these are the people that you look back and say…if they didn’t do or say ________, then I wouldn’t be where I am today. Do you know someone who has shaped your life by showing up fully without a mask and letting you see them? These people tend to have a way of looking deep inside of you, seeing your light even when you don’t. We all want to impact the world in some way, and I believe that this is something that each of was made to do. Sometimes we don’t even know that we have influenced someone’s life in this way, but if we are showing up and being seen and connecting with others, we are impacting the world in ways that we may never know.
One of my favorite quotes is by Marianne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
We all have the ability to be fireflies, we might not know it, we might not feel like what we have to offer is enough, but it is! In fact, your unique light (or your “original medicine”, I’ll talk more about this later) is exactly what you need and is something that is needed by those around you! You are the only one who can do it, and if you don’t discover and share your light, the world misses out on something that will never occur again!